Tuesday 26 August 2014

WHAT'S FOR DESSERT?

What's for dessert?
Bread and butter pudding


Hey Mommies
This is an old British dessert that I saw on BBC and gave it a try, not only is it delicious but it is simple and doesn't require a lot of ingredients. I mean what more could you ask for? I thought I should share it with you guys and I bet your little ones will be asking for seconds!





Ingredients
white bread (4 slices)
butter
125 ml milk
1 egg
5 Tbsp sugar
Sultanas (optional)- don't worry if you don't find sultanas, you can still do without them. Just don't replace them with raisins because raisins burn and give the pudding an 'ashy' taste.
Ice-cream to serve

Method
Pre-heat oven to 180°C
Cut out the crusty sides of each slice and butter on only one side each
Cut each slice into 4 squares or triangles
Butter an oven-proof dish and place the bread pieces making two layers, butter side up.
If you are using sultanas sprinkle them between the two layers and on top
In a bowl mix well the egg, milk and sugar and pour evenly over the bread pieces
Sprinkle some sugar on top and set aside for 15 minutes
Place in oven and bake for 45 minutes to an hour or until light brown
Let it cool for 15-20 minutes
Serve with ice-cream and enjoy!




Thursday 21 August 2014

WHY YELLING AT YOUR CHILD MIGHT NOT BE GOOD


"Say please!" "You don't listen!" "I said wear your jersey!" Sound familiar? I'm pretty sure most of us are guilty of yelling at our kids, I know I am. I've recently made an interesting observation; how kids respond to a lower and calm reprimanding voice as opposed to shouting. If you find yourself always yelling about the same thing it might be that your child blocks you out when you start shouting. I decided to research and give the opposite approach a try.

After having yelled at my son almost daily for a year about bringing the sand from the school sandpit in the house through his shoes, I approached him with kind language. It yielded different results, he finally got it. We keep saying "I told you this a hundred times" or "how many times did I tell you this" but we don't really 'tell' them, we shout, and immediately when you do that research suggests the child doesn't hear what is being said to them.

It is also deeper than we think. A study published in the Journal of marriage and family found that yelling at your child can cause aggression and low self-esteem. We are also teaching them bad communication habits. There is an American saying "shouting at your child to obey is like using the horn to steer your car, both yield same results." There are many reasons why we yell at our children, may be the way we were raised- if that's how your mother communicated with you that's likely how you will communicate with your children, or high expectations- you may be expecting too much from them, also stress- children bear the stress of their parents, we release on them without being aware.

So mommies, before saying your child doesn't listen, you might want to check the tone and volume of your voice, he probably doesn't hear what is being said to him.
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